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I live in a small apartment. We have been here for nearly a year… It's a two bedroom apartment… He had taken over the whole other room… He has taken over most of the living room and half of the bedroom. We split the rent evenly… Infact, I pay all the other bills… I have been very patient.. I feel I deserve what I pay for… That means I should have some space in the living room, the bedroom, and the extra room.. I have had many discussions… I hardly batted an eye when he took up the entire second room. He took over the whole house without my permission… At this point, I no longer need permission… I've been far beyond patient.
Wait it's already in a "donate pile"? Well then yeah, they are just too lazy to take it to the Goodwill … I don't see what's wrong with saying "hey, I'm making a trip to the Goodwill, let me take your pile with me". It would be one thing if it's still packed in their closet or all around their living space, but if it's in a pile they've specifically designated "to donate" then they'd probably appreciate the help actually taking it.
I know I lived without a vehicle for a long time, so I'd have piles of items I'd gathered together to be gotten rid of, but it was a bit more effort for me to be able to take them where they needed to go. I would have absolutely appreciated my partner offering to drive them to the Goodwill or the resale shop.
My boyfriend sees me get rid of so much stuff that when he can’t find one of his items his first question is “did you throw it away?” I never throw his things away. Don’t get me wrong, as a minimalist I fantasize about throwing all his stuff away, but feel that is so disrespectful. I just remind him that if he didn’t have so much stuff maybe it would be easier to find the item he was looking for.
I’m 55 a mother of 5 grandma of five and a great grandma I have so many things , I have been minimizing for over a year I started the Marie Kondo way , my cousin passed away ,now I’m Swedish death cleaning , I honestly thought I could never be a minimalist but maybe some day I will , it’s challenging , I’m home most the time with my 36 year old son who has autism so I use a lot of things to help me with his care ,when do you get to that point when you know you discarded enough . I rarely go out ,so my home is my gathering place ,for family and was built for my sons needs , I’m stuck on what to keep and what to toss a lot . The 20 20 rule is helping but I really don’t want to spend any money replacing either .
Ok but I threw away a smoothie packet that was 5 years expired and my partner was pissed…
everything is simple for me ever since , i guess my point rightnow is how to have more hahah 😅
Did you manage to get the tote bag back from the thrift store? I found it very liberating to donate the stuff of my husband once he had died. It was good to know the things would be used again and valued by someone else. I would have found it disrespectful to leave the things to gather dust in the garage or to be thrown away.
Hey, I am on a journey to minimalism, and there is one thing I am struggling with. How do I minimalize my bathroom in regards to over the counter medicines? I have allergy stuff, cold stuff, pain killers, anti itch creams etc etc. I end up using these at least a couple times a year, but I hate how cluttered it feels. At the same time I can't afford to re-buy these things which can be really pricey. Advice?
Why do you pander to this level of question? When is it OK to throw away my partners things? The one word answer is "NEVER". If you had asked me this question before sitting down to make this video I could have saved you wasting 3 minutes and 44 seconds of your life.
never
I throw out my husband's stuff all the time. If he's left it lying around, out of place, for months, I toss it. When he asks where it is… I say, "where did you leave it?" and smile. He laughs and says, "you threw it out didn't you?!" He did not love it anyway. haha.
Mine says:" Never!".
Exactly the video I need! He asked what I would want for my birthday, I said I don't need anything but I would be happy if he just threw away or his useless stuff out of sight that was stocked in my side of the closet. So he did.
Ask it as a birthday gift and wouldn't resist you.
is it easier to be a minimalist if you don't have kids?
Hello! First, thank you for all that you do. You may have discussed this before and I missed it but, how did you start minimalism with your finances? Thanks!
I was wondering where you were going to go with this… good story and good advice.
Just love your background. Could you show your house around? 😀
I like how humble you are and how willing you are to share some mistakes/regrets (or whatever you want to call them) that you have made in relationships. Thanks for sharing 🙏. PS. It’s fun (relaxing, motivating) to watch people declutter on YouTube, so if you ever want to show the items in your monthly donation box, that would be cool. But if not, no worries, just a suggestion. Cheers 🤟🏽
Always ask first
wait….you have a kid?!! That house does not LOOK like any children live there at all! Wow, one very disciplined kid…
OH Oh! I would say NEVER unless you have permission. Lol
What to do when you are living with no minimalist or with the person that is constantly buying something and clutter common space or even your space? How to deal with such people or situation respectfuly?
Hey Josh, would it help if you taped the mic to the inside of your shirt instead of your body? Not sure if even subtle movements would make too much noise!
It's a trick question! Never haha
Yo! I want to see Ryan do one of these!
where do you get your black t-shirts?
I’ve been following you guys for two years now and when I first got introduced I was all for getting ride of all my things I didn’t need and now I’m stuck I’ve recollected things I don’t need and I need a nudge to get started again. Any recommendations?
Love your living room conversation videos! You have completely changed my life, thank you so much for all the value you provide! 💜
When my wife went for 3 days, i had dumped 440lbs of our stuff. One day of squabble. But shes a hoarder and she would never get rid of it.
I really love this series and look forward to it everyday. Awesome, thanks Joshua! 😊👍🏻👍🏻💖💫
How do you manage your content consumption vs creating content and the rest of your lifestyle? I notice you link to blog posts and have a Twitter account etc, do you have any tips for managing the amount of time spent online consuming content? 🙂
Is that a corded phone with a corded handset?! Love this series.
When they are cheating on you !!!!!