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The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self Compassion: Kristin Neff at TEDxCentennialParkWomen
People, this talk was geared towards women because this was at a women's event….
"Luckily, we aren't just reptiles"
audience claps silently
I think putting people down to feel better about yourself is defiantly not confined to Western culture (of the necessity to feel above average.)
Amazing, this video will help me a lot!
I respect Dr. Neff deeply. I loved her book about self-compassion, it changed my life. But I gotta be honest, her therapist-voice sets my teeth on edge.
No to downplay the importance of self compassion, but she is mischaracterizing self esteem in this video. Self esteem is not a belief that you're better than others, it is belief that you are competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and that you are worthy of happiness. I think the self esteem movement that Dr. Nathaniel Branden started back in the day actually encompasses everything she's talking about here. Arrogance is a sign of low self esteem – her references to narcissism and self esteem are off base, people with high self esteem are happy being themselves and don't need to derive their happiness from feeling superior to others.
Do we need techniques and steps to find ourselves? Or maybe some silence is needed to be along with ourselves. I liked her "mindfulness" concept about being in the present.
I agree with her completely
Hi, would there be a transcript of this by any chance?
Love this!
This is so important and I'm so grateful to be here…
Excellent speech. A lot of good information that I so want to research more. Thank you.
You are so graceful mam 🙂
What a beautiful person
Is it available in spanish?
Thank you very much, it was the missing piece I needed.
Thank you Kristin Neff. This is a beautiful message. It's wonderful you're helping more people learn this.
Her voice !?
Ha! Speak for yourself. Lol my self esteem was crushed all the way threw high school. Not until 11th grade did I actually start to develop some self worth. However it was only because I lost weight and got a GF
OK? OK? OK?? stop saying OK? asking OK? rhetorically is bargaining for unnecessary agreement. You Are Beautiful !
Simple AND brilliant…worth watching, thank you!
Wonderful presentation
So few ppl attended the talk. Wtf.
Number of times she lied in this video: 0
Thank you very much for this life enriching conference. Blessings from Argentina.
What a courageous, brave and inspiring testimony!
To whom this may concern, can I translate the video from English to Greek? I am PhD student in Clinical Psychology.
random shot of audience clapping when they shouldn't have been.
very nice !! I learn yoga for eating disorders. this idea is really good for body images and treating heart. Thank you Kristin.
Although there was a lot of great information here, I think she maybe isn't quite clear on what self-esteem really is. It has absolutely nothing to do with anyone else and certainly nothing to do with comparisons. Self-esteem is simply feeling good about yourself…no matter what. And it comes from SELF….not anyone else, and absolutely not from putting others down. In fact I thought it a bit ironic that to promote her idea of self-compassion, she felt a need to put down self-esteem. Both can work hand in hand.
Such a helpful message delivered in he most soothing, compassionate voice.
Amazing talk, thank you Kristin! I am experiencing the problems you describe about self esteem and I am so glad to be aware enough to spot the scrip that has been unconsciously running in my head over the last few days! Your book is on my way and can't wait to read it. Thank you for your work, for sharing and for connecting us in the world x
This cleared a lot of old fears for me. I realize the most important thing that I have never given myself or others at times is compassion. Thank you so much I love this video!
great talk.
to be frank with you , your episode sound Radical and phenomenal …. I wish you all the best in life …. will you marry baby even thought I don't know you ….
Very good, thanks.
That was seriously the best talk I've ever heard from TED Talks, really changed my perspective on self esteem and self compassion! Thank you Kristin!
So informative and so touching! Thank you for this interesting talk ??
Watching again…and I Will watching How manuais times necessary. The concept of Self compassion it's Just magic
Even on comments we can see the concept of focus on negative…With so many amazing concepts said, we focus un the whispering on background. Not judging, I swear ahaba Just observing
Self-esteem is contingent on success.
Self-compassion requires:
Being as kind, gentle and encouraging to yourself as you would be to a good friend.
Finding the common humanity – how am I the same as others?
Mindfulness – acknowledge & validate what is there in the present moment.
Self-criticism undermines motivation & may result in shutting down. However when we show ourselves compassion, when we feel safe & comforted we can find ourselves in the optimal mind state to do our best.
Self-compassion is not self indulgent; the more we are able to keep our hearts open to ourselves, the more we have available to give to others.
Thank you, Kristin.
I am happy about that she does not speak like the current white house press secretary
her hair is goals; love it.
Great video!
That whispering had me so fuckin paranoid
I'm touched by this video and I think I really need to practice self-compassion! <3
@TEDxTalks is there any chance to find this talk with Spanish subtitles? Please!
this is such a beautiful talk! It has the real potential of being life changing.
Braaaah Sarah Silverman up in this