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Rethinking infidelity … a talk for anyone who has ever loved | Esther Perel



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Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships.

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  1. Betrayal was what I felt, my heart broken not just by a guy I was in love with, but also by, as I once believed, a true friend I was in a really bad place emotionally because I had the suspicion my partner was cheating but I couldn’t confirm it. I reached out to a close friend and she introduced me to him. He explained how he would grant me access to my partners’ phone without him being aware, of course I was skeptical at first but I had to erase the doubts so I went through with the process and he delivered giving me access to old texts and incoming texts on Whatsapp, Facebook, Imessage he also got me into his Instagram account and I was able to confirm my suspicion and leave that toxic relationship. contact Rowe via email: roweflint202@gmail.com WhatsApp +1 312 754 8907 I made the right call doing this because of the relief I felt after you may also need this service if you find yourself with an untrustworthy partner.

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  13. When you reject your spouse, YOU are the first one to cheat!! The contract becomes voidable at the choice of the rejected spouse. Same as any other contract. Basic contract law.

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  18. When you find out that your spouse of 29 years has been cheating on you for years, in multiple occasions….. Do you tell everybody? Do you tell your friend or friends? Do you tell nobody and keep it to yourself ?
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    Many unanswered questions … ???

  19. the bible is 1000 % right….without self-love and it is impossible to remain faithful to one partner…all the shiet happens in this world is happening because of lack of self-love…

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  21. You know the movie: A walk on the moon? Infidelity of Pearl.
    I saw the movie and one scene is very Hard to see for Molly if comes in and all are sitting on the table also walker jerome. The movie is until this scene very real but after then to say thank You to walker i think many men's out there in the 60's wouldn't dance with Pearl after all that exept in Hollywood.
    The Special Situation i mentioned bevor if i were instead of molly i would ask her if she is on the next step to introduce her lover to the Rest of her Family? She's in love with walker, so why she dont leave hım? No man would take her back. The respect to her wife is breakex down totally. So the best were to talk with molly bevor cheating. So the relationship were at the end but he could bring enough respect to her because she told the truth but so in this movie she can go with molly and should never Come back because i personally would hate her for the Rest of my life

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