How to Human by Tarina
There’s a theory in quantum physics called the observer effect.
The idea is that the act of observing something changes its behaviour.
The observer is never completely separate from the system being observed.
✨ Conversations work like this too.
The way we observe people changes the environment we co-create with them.
If we walk into conversations already viewing someone as difficult, unsafe, selfish, dramatic, manipulative, annoying…
we communicate with that expectation woven into our tone, body language, energy, timing, defensiveness, and assumptions.
People feel it, even when we never say it out loud.
Observation is rarely (read… never) neutral in human relationships.
This doesn’t mean we are responsible for someone else’s behaviour.
But we are accountable for the lens we bring into the room.
The moment we believe someone is the enemy, we stop listening to understand and start listening to confirm what we already decided about them.
This will all changethe conversation before it even begins.
Conscious communication is partly learning that relationships are co-created environments.
The emotional atmosphere between two people is constantly being shaped by perception, interpretation, nervous systems, expectations, and energy exchange.
Sometimes accountability doesn’t require you to wonder “How do I change them?”
Sometimes it’s simply asking yourself: “how do I see this person?”
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